Comments on Baby Boyd Blog: the difference between us

Gee: i think "reminding" like wha...

2010-03-03T23:58:25.504+08:00

Gee:
i think "reminding" like what you do is okay, and good. =)
it's orders, like "don't stand like that", "don't touch this", "don't go there" that's a bit much.

but i don't think you "bark orders", lah, woman. i think you speak to Ro-Ro and Dylan in a very positive and motherly manner. =)
you should see some of the parent's here. they really "TALK DOWN" to their kids, and don't care if they do it in public.

Nadra:
i think when you get too "protective", it also has a negative effect on the kids, don't you think? like confidence, immune system, just to name a few. IMHO. =)

and you're right abt the barking out instructions. it's like they get a high from appearing superior and "in control" of their kids, not realising they actually look silly screaming their heads off. i think you're right, you can still be in control and in command without having to shout and scream. i think if there's a shared respect, not shaming your kids in public, they'll in return do you that favor of NOT misbehaving in public and embarrassing you.

i share ur sentiments, ann... not sure if its a si...

2010-03-03T19:42:47.257+08:00

i share ur sentiments, ann... not sure if its a singaporean thing or an asian thing..parents here tend to be anal about a lot of things...i wonder if they feel tired being so overly controlling..

i let my son roll around in grass and mud...but the in-laws...totally different...MIL scoffed and almost screamed at me in public when i let him roam free at the airport the other day...she said its dirty...when at their home, FIL and MIL dun let my boy crawl around..cos takut got strands of hair on the floor...i mean..i think its this kind of parenting that creates such a hostile and ungracious society here...everyone is only thinking about themselves...

the other thing is...why do they have to bark out instructions for everyone to hear??? if they really need to tell their children wat to do, cant they say it nicely?? they are children...not toys or robots or animals that u need to tame, right???

nadra

i must say compared to a lot of aussie parents her...

2010-03-03T05:12:55.093+08:00

i must say compared to a lot of aussie parents here, i am quite anal. i do tell rohan not to do this and that when it comes to common courtesy. like waiting for his turn or not to climb up a slide when someone else if coming down. i notice other parents here don't do that. still, i need to stop barking orders and maybe say it in a more positive tone.

to FIR --> i meant "CAN'T even ...

2010-03-02T17:34:00.823+08:00

to FIR --> i meant "CAN'T even enjoy themselves". =)

Night Shift Worker: just what the world nee...

2010-03-02T17:32:25.875+08:00

Night Shift Worker:
just what the world needs!
ANOTHER man! lol!!!!! dont angry ah...just kidding! =p

i'm so excited for you too!
bringin up a boy is less expensive than a girl, me thinks. hahaa...
no hair pretties, hand bags, cute hair clips... hahahaa!
well, not unless you go gaga over shoes like i do with Dray! =p

Cons:
actually Cons, you bring up a good point here. most parents freak out and dont let their kids "be friendly" to stray animals.

they instil fear by saying all the "wrong" things like, "dirty" or "the dog/cat will bite you", etc that this kids end up being "mean" to this poor animals.

i read somewhere, that because of this, one kid was throwing small stones at a stray cat, and when asked why, he said that because the cat will bite him - lines badly fed by his parents, i presume.

let me find this article and repost it. i belief i have it here somewhere on the blog.

and kudos to you for fostering such a happy and healthy relationship between Isaac and Bree, and therefore encouraging a love for animals since young. =)

most people get rid of their pets just bcos baby is coming. which is so so so cruel.

Fir:
YES!
and i read an article about parents that put their kids in expensive branded clothes for school, so much so that these kids end up NOT WANTING to do class activities (like art) or play in the playground, for fear of soiling their clothes and getting scolded!

these poor kids can even enjoy and be themselves!!!!

Anonymous:
that too.
i mean, if its a beneficial class, i think its okay. i have a mommy fren where her daughter goes to classes everyday, BUT she attends these classes WITH the daughter, so it becomes an activity for them, so THAT i think is fine and fun. =)

its when the kids get "dumped" into classes and programmes just so the parents / mommies can have time to themselves that i think is not right.

not to mention class after class..enrichment after...

2010-03-02T15:16:01.929+08:00

not to mention class after class..enrichment after enrichment..

hehe ..i was at the playground n overheard a mum t...

2010-03-02T14:16:47.410+08:00

hehe ..i was at the playground n overheard a mum telling her 18month old girl to stand up cos she will get her pants dirty!..hello..lady? isnt that wat the playground is for??
fir

Haha, and I was playing with stray dogs in constru...

2010-03-02T10:38:48.830+08:00

Haha, and I was playing with stray dogs in construction sites. You could say our parents didn't care much about us, but you could also say they weren't such an anal bunch! Thankfully we turned out ok :P

Thanks for your kind wishes Ann...Its a boy!! Very...

2010-03-02T08:13:20.184+08:00

Thanks for your kind wishes Ann...Its a boy!! Very excited and cant wait...teeheehee

thank you both. =) makes me smile to know you shar...

2010-03-02T00:47:16.723+08:00

thank you both. =)
makes me smile to know you share my views.

Night Shift Worker:
OMG! Congratulations on your soon-to-be-born baby!!
can i be nosy, and ask: BOY OR GIRL???? =)

Cons:
True! most kids these days are too sheltered, too restricted and too stifled i think.
they're not allowed to be themselves! they are expected to behave like adults from a very young age. poor things...they don't have a childhood like we did!
i was swimming in the canal back in my kampong!

I love this post! Very well said! I've been ...

2010-03-01T23:40:11.028+08:00

I love this post! Very well said! I've been thinking that there are too many overly-controlling parents around too. And through the things they do to deny their kids of what they do not approve of, they end up with kids who just stay indoors too much. What they haven't realised is what kind of under-exposed adults their children will grow up to be with no opionions of their own. This just perpetuates the practically-no-opposition country Singapore already is. Bleah

Well written article that expresses some things th...

2010-03-01T17:11:48.216+08:00

Well written article that expresses some things thought but never said. I guess the problem is that most of us were raised by parents who said "Dont to this and Dont do that" therefore we can't help but react the same way when our kids do this kinds of stuff. As for me,as I was the 7th child, my mom allowed me to juggle with knives (just kidding)! I hope I'll be a good mom whetn the time comes which is in 4 mths time !